Is it a good idea to start as a couple at the same time?
Yes in general, but with rules. Doing the practice in parallel gives shared context to talk about the changes. But it requires an absolute rule: do not share the content of the pages. Never. Not even "a little piece." The pages are private and stop working if you make them thinking that your partner will read them.
What happens when one moves faster than the other?
It almost always happens. One party begins to notice resentments, buried desires, or lack of alignment with the relationship. The other part is still in "superficial cleaning." This can create real, not imagined, friction.
Recommendation: When an important topic appears on your pages, bring it to a specific conversation with your partner, outside the pages. Don't wait for him/her to "move on" to understand it.
How to manage domestic logistics of doing them at the same time?
A single person in the kitchen making pages at 7 in the morning works. Two people at separate tables with two coffees too — as long as there is mutual silence.
Setups that work as a pair:
- Two different corners from the same house, no talking rule
- Rotating shift with the kitchen table if you only have one table
- One in bed, another on the couch, no eye contact
- pact of silence 45 minutes before the first "good morning"
- Weekly Artist Quote shared but separately (each one their own)
What to do if your partner leaves you and you continue?
It is most likely. If your partner gets tired in week 2, you continue without negotiating it. Making pages is not a couple activity — it is individual. But jealousy or a feeling that "you are isolating yourself" may appear. Honest conversation once it appears: explain that it is personal practice, not exclusion.
If after 3 months your partner is still upset by your practice, it usually indicates something deeper in the dynamic — it's not because of the pages themselves.